Who Doesn’t Like Cheese?!

I don’t think my son likes cheese. Which really begs the question: is he even my child? I’m almost five months in to a dairy-free diet because I’m breastfeeding my daughter and I’m not going to lie… I live a little dangerously and have cheese from time to time because cheese is amazing. (Before you judge please know that I am dairy free due to an abundance of caution because my son had the allergy and outgrew it. My daughter has never had any of the definitive signs of a dairy allergy, she just poops a lot when I have a lot of dairy).

I have tried everything to get him to like cheese. I’ve offered it in all forms, on all things, all of the times. Sometimes he nibbles on the cheese squares that come in the Lunchable package. So he sorta likes bad, cheap cheese. Sometimes he will poke his mac and cheese with his fork like a woodpecker pecks at a tree. But not even a pretend airplane will make it go in his mouth.

Friday he had pizza for lunch. He cried and said he wanted bread. I told him pizza is bread with cheese and tomato sauce. I offered to take the cheese off of it. He surprised me by trying it cheeseless. He looked at the remaining sauce and said, “That’s peanut butter!” I explained to him that it’s not, that it’s tomato sauce but he would’t hear it. I make a point to be honest with him about what he is eating… but I tried and he insisted that it was peanut butter. He was eating it so if that’s the lie he needed to tell himself to eat then cool!

Today, however, he refused to even be at the same table with the pizza. “I don’t like pizza! It’s yucky! I wanna throw it in the trash!” Pretty weird coming from a kid who ate pizza two days prior thinking it had peanut butter on it, but okay.

Kids do what they want. They hear what they want. They believe what they want. They eat what they want (kinda). And loving cheese is not a genetic trait, apparently.

Dinner Winner Plate Review

Making dinner a fun experience is a tried and true way of making any kid relax and hopefully eat at meal time. Recently we tried the Dinner Winner Plate to try to make eating dinner a literal game.

Overall, the concept is really cute. The plate is designed to look like a board game. Each square has encouraging phrases to get your kid to try whatever food is in that square. Once your child eats his way to the last square they get a treat! They come in a few different designs, the one we got was the dinosaur print.

My son is three, so he was very into the design. I make sure he had some things on the plate that he would like. He didn’t really follow the order of the squares, he just went right to the things he knew he liked. I had talked up him getting a treat if he ate everything, so when he ate what he wanted he said, “all done!” and then wanted the treat. I’m not sure if I should have not mentioned the treat or not. When I explained that he only gets the treat if he eats everything he got pretttttty mad. I got him to eat all but 2 of the squares, though he did nibble on some of the cheese. I did withhold the intended treat since he didn’t eat everything, but since he did do pretty well I gave him a veggie pouch and told him it was his treat. It was actually just in the last square before the actual treat and he had no idea.

I’m hoping that if we keep using Dinner Winner Plate that my son will start to see how fun eating can be and eat more of what is on the plate. I highly recommend it to parents who are dealing with a picky eater. Making eating a game is a great way to get them interested.

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Yesterday was my son’s third birthday! Planning a birthday party is stressful and, as we are now juggling two kids this year since our new addition in December, my budget and energy for this party were pretty limited.

This year his language developed enough where he was able to understand what his birthday meant enough to know he wanted a Paw Patrol birthday party. “I eat the Paw Patrols!” he said, and I can only assume and hope he meant cake.

Planning a birthday party for a picky eater is extra stressful. You want them to be a kid and enjoy themselves but also, you know not one of the fifty turkey pinwheels you bought is going to end up even close to his mouth. So you plan it early enough where you can squeeze in something he’ll eat before he (hopefully) naps. All while knowing that if all goes according to plan he is likely not going to care much for dino nuggets. And that is exactly what happened.

The day of the party we obviously talked up all things birthday related to him. He knew exactly what a birthday party was because of daycare. As soon as he heard the word birthday party he screamed, “I WANT CAKE!” I was able to reason with him by showing him his colorful Paw Patrol cake and reassuring him that we will eat it at the party.

His friends started showing up and he really didn’t care about anything else after that. Until it was time for his long awaited Paw Patrol cake. I want to really emphasize how picky of an eater my son is. It’s often impossible to get him to eat anything. So when I saw him tear into his cake I was thrilled. Last year on his birthday I tried to get him to eat a cupcake that was specially purchased for him and he cried. Progress has been made.

Giving a toddler a present is always an adventure. Seeing their excitement and hearing their giggles as they rip apart the wrapping is such a magical experience. And all of his presents were on point this year. I tried to choose the present to be opened based on who wasn’t distracted, a difficult task at a three year old’s party. My son saw the toy push lawn mower in the giant dino bag and excitedly started pushing it all around the house. When we asked if he wanted to open his others he decidedly said, “Nope!” and started another lap. He eventually opened the rest with the same amount of enthusiasm.

Overall it was a huge success. My extra picky toddler was able to tell me what he wanted with the only fail being the turkey pinwheels. At least he liked the cake. And the presents.

When my son started eating solid meals and snacks at one year old we didn’t think anything of the fact that he mostly ate chicken nuggets. And we should not have, children that are new to solids are going to be limited in what they eat. But as time went on, his friends starting becoming obsessed with the foods kids typically are obsessed with (mac and cheese, pizza, and pasta for example). My son is three and still refuses to eat any of these foods.

When we began to realize he was a picky eater we tried all of the methods. We offered him the food we wanted him to eat and if he didn’t eat it he would be offered it at the next meal. We catered to what he wanted. We didn’t cater to what he wanted. Ultimately, we ended up putting him in daycare when I went back to work in hopes that being around other kids would help him eat better. Not even that worked. Eventually, he ended up in food therapy.

Upon research, we learned that our son isn’t just a picky eater, but an extremely picky eater. He was so much anxiety about trying new foods that he would seriously rather go hungry then eat it. His eating was so bad that when pictures pop up from my memories, I can see that he used to be chubby and is now skinny and it makes me sad and worried.

When I was working it was impossible to do family meals. He would get whatever was quick and filling. When his sister was born I became a Stay at Home Mom again and being the one that gave him at least three meals and two snacks a day showed me just how much his eating had not improved. I made it my project to make it better. I don’t know if what I’m doing is the right way, but it seems to be working for us.

The first thing I did was make a schedule that made it so my son was eating every two hours that he was awake. Each offering, whether it was a snack or a meal, was high in protein and calories (snacks being less than meals as they are, well, snacks).

I make sure he drinks water except for at meals, which is when he got whole milk after he ate. I made sure he was not filling up on snacks and milk so that he’s actually hungry at meals.

I make sure he gets ample running around time, preferably outside. I try to get him to work up an appetite.

The one thing that I have done that has made the biggest difference is I started having family meals again where we all sit at the same table and eat the same thing. Phones and devices are not allowed. I make sure there is at least one thing on my son’s plate that he will eat. But he is offered what we eat. Sometimes on days when he hasn’t eaten much I panic and make him a smoothie because I’d rather him have something than go to bed hungry.

My son is still an extremely picky eater. I’m learning that this is a process and that he isn’t going to get better if I don’t show him healthy eating habits. We still have sensory snacks where we just play around with food to get him used to it and hopefully try it. I’ve also learned that a good portion of his poor eating habits is about control for him. I can offer him something that I “know” he will eat and he won’t just because he knows I can’t or won’t force him to. It is a very taxing battle.

I am not an expert in anything parenting related. But I can say that from my experience, everything that you want your child to learn needs to start at home. Lead by example. It’s one thing to tell your child to eat a well balanced meal, but it’s another to offer it to them and eat it along with them. Let them be little, but know they can’t be little forever.